Our blog recently looked at the problem of child marriage in Yemen [“Child Marriage in Yemen” March 25, 2010]. Yemen is considering a ban on child marriage that would forbid the marriage of girls under the age of 16. Currently in Yemen about half of Yemeni girls are married before the age of 18 and in some of the villages girls are married at half that age. The proposed law, however, is meeting with fierce resistance from rural and religious leaders.
Child marriage is a violation of human rights. It also kills. MSNBC reported this week that a 13-year-old Yemini girl died on April 2, four days after her marriage to a 23-year-old man ["Report: Bride, 13, Dies of Bleeding" April 8, 2010]. The medical report said she suffered a tear to her genitals and severe bleeding. Her story, unfortunately, is all too common in Yemen and other countries where child marriage practices continue.
Early marriage can have a deadly impact on girls. Their bodies are not developed enough to have a safe pregnancy or delivery. As a result, child brides are more far more likely to die in pregnancy and childbirth. Also, child brides are often pulled out of school, and are more prone to suffer from domestic violence and abuse in their new homes.
While the problem of child marriage is still a widespread practice in many poor developing nations, international condemnation of the practice is building thanks to the story of Nujood Ali, a young Yemeni girl, who is now 12 years old and divorced. Forced to marry at age 10, her story has become an international sensation. This past weekend, I read her autobiography, I am Nujood, Age 10 and Divorced. It’s an amazing story.
In February 2008 Nujood, age 10, was pulled out of school and told that she was to be married to a 30 year old man from their former village. She was married not long after that and taken away from her family to live with her husband and his family. Nujood’s husband raped her on their wedding night, even after promising her father that he would not touch her until a year after her first period.
The next day she was put to work around the house and she was not allowed to leave the house or play with other children her own age. Her husband routinely beat her and her mother-in-law did not offer any sympathy; she just told Nujood’s husband, “Hit her even harder. She must listen to you – she is your wife.” After weeks of rape, beatings, crying and begging she was allowed to go visit her parents. While there Nujood gathered all her courage and ran away to the courthouse to find a judge to grant her a divorce.
Nujood luckily found a very sympathetic judge who agreed to help her and a lawyer with connections to the media and international feminist groups. Nujood’s case drew international attention, and on April 15, 2008, she became the youngest girl in Yemen to be granted a divorce.
Nujood’s story has helped other girls in Yemen. Not long after Nujood got her divorce two other young girls, ages 12 and 9, came forward and filed for divorce. Nujood was incredibly brave to run away, and informed enough to know that she had a right to seek divorce. Unfortunately there are thousands of girls just like Nujood around the world who have not been as fortunate, including the 13-year old girl who died last week. But, hopefully, Nujood’s story will continue to inspire those in the same situation to seek help and draw global attention to the issue of child marriage.
To learn more about this courageous young woman, read her autobiography, I am Nujood, Age 10 and Divorced. It is a truly inspiring book.
Posted by Jennie Wetter, Program Manager